Mind Over Money
As we all face the uncertainty of our economy, many people describe their fears and anxiety with money. As I’ve begun to take a closer look at my own relationship with money, I have gained a better understanding of how many people’s emotions and finances are so closely connected. One of the frameworks that I’ve been following is that of Suze Orman. What I’ve begun to appreciate about her format, the concepts and strategies she presents, is that it begins with learning about values, nurturance, and respect within your relationship with money.
As one begins to think of money as he would a relationship with another person, it truly forces one to take an alternative perspective. For instance, if one considers his fears and anxieties with money, he is likely afraid of not having enough. It can be this fear that keeps one from taking control of his money and contributes to feeling powerless. However, if one is willing to consider that when he nurtures his relationship with money and responds to it appropriately, he can begin to feel free from this control.
You can respond more positively to money when you do not fear it, try to push it aside when it becomes complicated, or pretend it is not a problem. Like people, our relationship with money has special needs for nurturance at times. When you are caring and respectful of your money, it can return the favor by taking care of you or those you love.
What we are taught about money, how we learned about it, and the past experiences we’ve had with money can all have a big impact on our fear of it. What has been the nature of your family members’ relationships with money? Their relationship with money shape your own feelings toward it. Money can begin to make an impression on us at a young age. One’s thoughts about money may contribute to one’s feelings of insecurity or feelings of low self-worth. Emotions can be linked to one’s past experience with money.
Thus, I’m challenged to begin a new journey with money. It’s truly a therapeutic process. To begin to take the time to develop a relationship with money is to admit one’s concerns, release the secrets, commit to being honest and take responsibility for one’s past behaviors with money. It’s beginning to take the time to heal from feeling victim to one’s money, as it’s not the lack of having the time that has prevented this relationship from flourishing, but rather the fear.
I’m eager to share more about this perspective towards money. Suze Orman has written several books, many with workbook companions. She also has a website www.suzeorman.com and hosts a show on CNBC on Saturday nights. Her motto, “People first, then money, then things.”Tags: financial anxiety, mind over money, understanding our relationship with money, your beliefs around money
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner
- Jody Johnson, LICSW, LIMHP, began working at Wholeness Healing Center as a therapist in 2007. Jody graduated from the University of Nebraska at Omaha with her Masters in Social Work. She received her bachelor degree in Social Work from the University of Nebraska at Kearney.
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