Finding the Peace

Be Impeccable with Your Word

The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz is a little handbook that carries great wisdom for us in our journey towards wholeness. Ruiz calls it a practical guide to personal freedom and subtitles it “A Toltec Wisdom Book”. I use these principles when I need guidance in a situation. The first agreement is: Be Impeccable with Your Word. I often find the agreements give greater clarity and guidance to me when I am trying to decide how to maneuver life’s difficulties.

The following paragraph is quoted from the book:  The Four Agreements

Be Impeccable with Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

With this principle, I am reminded that I need to have voice. I need to speak out my own inner truth. I speak as kindly about myself as I do others and I use my voice to validate my own inner knowing.

Perhaps the difficulty for you is knowing and trusting your own inner wisdom. And so to speak out is a real risk. But each time you act on your inner knowing, or you speak out your truth, the voice within you, your own knowing gets stronger.

Or perhaps your difficulty it is that you use your voice to be hurtful to yourself or to others. Begin to be aware that your voice carries power and that you can use it to be wounding or you can use it to be loving. Make a choice to use your voice as a tool to love others. And don’t forget that you must treat yourself also with love. Stop saying those things which are wounding to yourself.
Today “Be Impeccable with Your Word.

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  • Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
    Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner

  • Janie Pfeifer Watson, LICSW, is the founder and director of Wholeness Healing Center, a mental health practice in Grand Island, Nebraska with remote sites in Broken Bow and Kearney. Her expertise encompasses a broad range of areas, including depression, anxiety, attachment and bonding, coaching, couples work, mindfulness, trauma, and grief. She views therapy as an opportunity to learn more about yourself as you step more into being your authentic self. From her perspective this is part of the spiritual journey; on this journey, she serves as a mirror for her clients as they get to know themselves—and, ultimately, to love themselves.


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