Finding the Peace

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Previously we talked about Miguel Ruiz’s book called The Four Agreements.  It is a small handbook that carries great wisdom for us as we journey through life.  Mr. Ruiz calls it a practical guide to personal freedom and subtitles it “A Toltec Wisdom Book”.  In a previous blog we talked about his first agreement: Be Impeccable With your Word. Today I would like to add to the discussion with the second of his four agreements.

                Don’t Take Anything Personally.

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you will not be the victim of needless suffering.

I really love this nugget of gold, small but valuable. Probably because it is something I work on within my own self – not to take anything personally. I have come to learn that the reality is that what others say and do is not yours to own. Others are allowed their opinions but you do not have to take it on as yours unless it fits for you.  What others say is a projection of their own reality, a reality they see through their own experiences and history – their colored lens.

To put it in perspective, what would life be like if you could just let things roll off your back and not personalize what someone else does?  Life would be better.  Just because someone says something, doesn’t make it so. Let it go and move on.




  • Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
    Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner

  • Janie Pfeifer Watson, LICSW, is the founder and director of Wholeness Healing Center, a mental health practice in Grand Island, Nebraska with remote sites in Broken Bow and Kearney. Her expertise encompasses a broad range of areas, including depression, anxiety, attachment and bonding, coaching, couples work, mindfulness, trauma, and grief. She views therapy as an opportunity to learn more about yourself as you step more into being your authentic self. From her perspective this is part of the spiritual journey; on this journey, she serves as a mirror for her clients as they get to know themselves—and, ultimately, to love themselves.


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