Finding the Peace

Being Comfortable with Silence

Noise surrounds us every day. There is noise from our outside environment which we really have no control over. As I write this I can hear construction work on a road nearby with big trucks moving. And although we don’t have control over some of our environmental noises, there are many noises that we allow into our lives that we do have control over. One example is when people choose to have the television on regardless of whether they are watching it or not. They use it as “white noise” when they go to sleep or are just home alone. Used in this way, noise can become a distraction for us. It can prevent us from accessing the quiet within ourselves.

When we use noise in this way, we block ourselves from listening to the thoughts and feelings that are bubbling up inside of us. Noise becomes a way we numb out from ourselves. Being numb means we can be unaware of our feelings and emotions. Being numb we can put aside situations that we should be dealing with, but make us uncomfortable and avoidant. Being numb means we can distract ourselves from thinking about it. So, although we may feel better by avoiding our thoughts and feelings, we simply delay resolution of a situation. We delay dealing with our real feelings and the thoughts and feelings stay inside us and fester. Try taking some time to have silence. Let yourself sit in silence and as your thoughts and feelings come up, just notice them and accept them. It is in this vein that you can take your feelings of anger, frustration, sadness and/or pain and transmute them into ways to heal them within you. Then the silence becomes a gift as you can then “be” with yourself.

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  • Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
    Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner

  • Janie Pfeifer Watson, LICSW, is the founder and director of Wholeness Healing Center, a mental health practice in Grand Island, Nebraska with remote sites in Broken Bow and Kearney. Her expertise encompasses a broad range of areas, including depression, anxiety, attachment and bonding, coaching, couples work, mindfulness, trauma, and grief. She views therapy as an opportunity to learn more about yourself as you step more into being your authentic self. From her perspective this is part of the spiritual journey; on this journey, she serves as a mirror for her clients as they get to know themselves—and, ultimately, to love themselves.


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