Wholeness Healing Today

Clarifying the Definition of a Satisfying Moment

During 2020, life has changed for each of us in different ways, but undoubtedly, each of us has had a shift in our “normal” routine. When we, as social beings, have to shut down from physically being with others, we have to make very deliberate, intentions/choices about who we choose to be with if we venture out. Whether we have been respecting the boundaries of others or we have found ourselves prioritizing, setting limits, and/or giving ourselves permission to have some moments with others, we are probably aware and grateful when we have some connecting time.

Setting priorities may have become the truth of how we managed COVID. Yearning for more connections, we may have ventured out. Because of the contrast of being “shut down” we can really “feel” when a connection happens. It is in these moments that I have been very aware that connections feel so “satisfying”. Satisfying in that it filled my soul, bringing up gratitude that a nice connection happened, quenching my thirst for the moment. I found the fulfillment of the “satisfying moment” stayed with me for hours, energizing me, picking me up and elevating me for some time.

COVID has brought this about. With enough contrast we can be aware of what we are really yearning for. I have had enough contrast (when we completely quarantined) that the smallest of moments fill my soul, whereas before it might not have been embraced so deeply. It changes me and I am in gratitude for the connection, however small it may be.

Even before COVID, we probably experienced times of contrasting moments. It could be as simple as experiencing contrast in moment of overindulgence. I recall those Christmas moments when my family  has gathered, and we had too many presents to open. The moment of opening those gifts ended with an  emptiness. Fun for a moment, but not so satisfying to the soul. Maybe it actually left you feeling empty in the midst of all the “stuff”.

During COVID I found that my visits to see my mom, which have been coffee time on her patio (until the cold sets in), allow us to sit with each other, be present and just sink into some connecting moments. Having a few hours with nothing to distract us from each other such as eating out, or putting a meal on the table, or cleaning up has given us a chance to just have good meaningful conversation. The debris has been cleared. It has been in these moments that I have been gifted with some of our most meaningful connecting. I leave the encounter feeling “satisfied”. There has been a heart-filled connection and my soul, which has been thirsty for it, has found it to be enough for the moment. In that moment, I realize that maybe I have missed some of those moments over the years, that I may have had, but was too busy managing other things, to really sink into the space and put it on like a suave and be with it. I suddenly understand how having less is really having more.

So here’s to a COVID positive – just actually realizing that the smallest of things can be quite enough in a moment if we are present and sink into it. Perhaps our challenge is to make sure we are embracing those moments when we have them as we never know what the next moment will be. And if this year hasn’t brought that point home, we have missed a big one. This whole year has been an experience and one of the gifts has been to recognize and find fulfillment in the smallest of moments. Here’s to small but meaningful moments in your life.

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  • Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
    Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner

  • Janie Pfeifer Watson, LICSW, is the founder and director of Wholeness Healing Center, a mental health practice in Grand Island, Nebraska with remote sites in Broken Bow and Kearney. Her expertise encompasses a broad range of areas, including depression, anxiety, attachment and bonding, coaching, couples work, mindfulness, trauma, and grief. She views therapy as an opportunity to learn more about yourself as you step more into being your authentic self. From her perspective this is part of the spiritual journey; on this journey, she serves as a mirror for her clients as they get to know themselves—and, ultimately, to love themselves.


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