Everything is in Perfect Order
So you have all heard the phrase, “Everything is in perfect order.” Exactly what does that mean? What is perfect order about a day gone south? You overslept this morning, were late to work, had a bad hair day and felt as if you were hardly at the top of your game today. And this is in perfect order? Go a bit deeper. As a result of being a half a step late all day long, you experienced discomfort, frustration, and awareness that whatever you were doing, you might want to make some changes. Perhaps, as a result of the experience of the day, you decide you need more sleep and have to get to bed earlier, or you decide you aren’t feeling physically up to par so you need a good physical check up. Maybe you decide you have to have some help in the mornings and you sit down with the family and set up some guidelines to get everyone involved in earlier bedtimes and smoother morning routines, which results in a benefit for everyone. As a result of your discomfort, you looked within to pay attention to your own voice and your needs. This made it an opportunity for growth.
Consider being stuck in a job you don’t like and see no way out, or worse yet, you have lost your job. Maybe in your discomfort, you start to explore ways to get into a new career. This requires you stepping out of your box and taking some risk. Normally you would opt to keep yourself more safe and secure, but in your “discomfort”, you decide to take the plunge. In the world of perfect order, your discomfort has now taken you deeper towards realizing your authentic self. In your discomfort, you find yourself not happy with the “status quo”. In your discomfort and pain, you are motivated to take steps out of the pain, to look within at what you need to be doing, and to move forward in a different way.
One important point is to realize that your experience in this moment and the perfection of it for you (your soul lessons) are not necessarily the same for the other people involved in the same moment. Your job is to look at what “you” can learn from the moment, how you can grow. You take ownership for the moment and use it for your development. Pointing things out about what is perfect about it for others isn’t necessarily going to give you your lessons, your validation, or your growth. Nor would you be doing the work you are to be doing (e.g. looking at yourself to learn and grow) if you are focused on others.
Yes, there are many painful moments in the journey of life. Perhaps, some are too painful to even begin to understand how or what may be perfect about them. But that precisely the point. When life is too difficult and too hard to understand, the only way may be to look at the circumstances from a soul level. If you are here to grow and develop on a spiritual level, then when life is tough, it is this level to go to in order to handle and manage the pain of the circumstances. What else is there? It may take time to get to that place of seeing it, but it is one way to manage through the pain and begin to make some sense of the circumstances.
When you get into the habit of going through life moments observing what is coming into your life and realizing that this moment is for your growth and development, then you may begin to catch some really interesting synchronicities (the other side of the coin). And in the vein of everything being in perfect order, these synchronicities are not random, not accidental. And although the moment may seem coincidental, Wayne Dyer states, “There’s no coincidence. In fact, coincidence itself is a mathematical term. Remember in geometry, they would say that two angles that coincide, fit together perfectly – so now we’ve taken a term that means ‘two things that fit together perfectly’ and interpreted it to mean ‘something that fits together accidentally.’ We’ve just reversed the whole concept of coincidence – its co-in-side.” ~ (Wayne Dyer)
So actually, a coincidence is not an accident but something that fits together perfectly. I always applaud the Divine when something serendipitously happens. I believe it happens more frequently than we realize, but oh what fun when things just fall into place without effort. This is just another example of having a “perfect order” moment, but much more fun than having to experience discomfort to encourage us to look at change or to validate the path we are on. And when you focus on the perfectly aligned moments, you can find all kinds of signs that fit into the big picture of your focus.
It is during these times when you really have to ponder life and how events, meeting of people, or signs from above, can fit together so perfectly. It does embrace a perfect order in the sequence. I find this to be true when I have a question – I just pose the question and often the answer comes to me through a conversation I have during the day or an article I pick up to read, or any number of “random” sources.
Author Squire Rushnell calls them God winks. “There is a powerful correlation between wishes and winks, because when your wish comes true or your prayer is answered, it sometimes comes in the form of a coincidence – a wink from God.” I love the idea of getting God’s “wink” as affirmation that I am on track, or moving in the right direction. I take the coincidences into my heart and affirm myself and continue on in my journey or endeavor knowing I am flying on the wings of the eagle and I should keep on keeping on, paying attention to the perfect moments of life.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner
- Janie Pfeifer Watson, LICSW, is the founder and director of Wholeness Healing Center, a mental health practice in Grand Island, Nebraska with remote sites in Broken Bow and Kearney. Her expertise encompasses a broad range of areas, including depression, anxiety, attachment and bonding, coaching, couples work, mindfulness, trauma, and grief. She views therapy as an opportunity to learn more about yourself as you step more into being your authentic self. From her perspective this is part of the spiritual journey; on this journey, she serves as a mirror for her clients as they get to know themselves—and, ultimately, to love themselves.
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