Therapy Time—Sacred Time
Therapy time is such a sacred time. To me it is a spiritual journey to the soul. It is taking the time to be with yourself and accepting yourself as someone important and worthwhile. Worthwhile enough to schedule an appointment and to take the time to focus on “just you”. This in itself can be a huge step in the inner journey of healing. To get to that core part of yourself, you have to be willing and courageous enough to identify and express your own truths. This journey can be a difficult process as we all have defense mechanisms that may block our ability to hear ourselves and what that truth may be.
My job as a therapist is to help clients hear their truth. I sit with the client, being fully present, mirroring back what I hear. I will ask questions that guide the client to go deeper or reflect back what has just been said. Together, the client and I will work towards having better understanding about the feelings being experienced and what is going on inside. This can validate that how what one thinks and feels really matters. Finding out more about your authentic self is the gift.
I recently had a woman come back to therapy. I had worked with her off and on over the years, and she was always a delight and I enjoyed my time with her thoroughly. I am drawn to the client’s essence and enjoy the realness that develops in the therapeutic relationship. So no matter what a client thinks and feels, it often is a sharing of a piece of his/her heart that might be hidden to others, but is a part of the real self. And it is in the connecting to the realness of another that makes any relationship strong. In therapy, as one is accepted, self-healing can happen.
I had given this woman a couple of ideas for assignments she could do before our next session. When she came in the next time, she sadly admitted that she hadn’t done her assignments and seemed distraught with herself. I assured her that not doing her assignments was okay and she was in charge of the process. Perhaps it wasn’t even the right assignment for her. She only had a few sessions and was back in touch with herself. Her depression had lifted. She was feeling great and had gone to another level in understanding and hearing herself. But she said to me that perhaps the most important thing that had happened was when I said, “It is okay; you don’t need to do the assignments”. She said being told that she didn’t have to perform, and she could just “be” was very significant in her own acceptance of herself. She only had to bring herself to the session. Nothing had to be done but listen to herself so she could reconnect to her soul, to her spirit and to her heart. She could put down the task of performing . . . and just be. Being who we are doesn’t require performance; it just requires that we know who that person is and allow that self to be who we share with the world. Anytime we allow ourselves to see a bit more of our essence and have the courage to share it with the world, we have ventured into a sacred moment. She only needed to show up.Tags: being who we are doesn't require performance, showing up to yourself, therapy is a spiritual journey, therapy is sacred time
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker
Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner
- Janie Pfeifer Watson, LICSW, is the founder and director of Wholeness Healing Center, a mental health practice in Grand Island, Nebraska with remote sites in Broken Bow and Kearney. Her expertise encompasses a broad range of areas, including depression, anxiety, attachment and bonding, coaching, couples work, mindfulness, trauma, and grief. She views therapy as an opportunity to learn more about yourself as you step more into being your authentic self. From her perspective this is part of the spiritual journey; on this journey, she serves as a mirror for her clients as they get to know themselves—and, ultimately, to love themselves.
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